Difference between revisions of "Disowning Nonvegans"
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| + | Please do not disown people, whether friends or family, for not being vegan. This is unlikely to encourage them to go vegan and reflects poorly on veganism. | ||
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| + | However, there are reasons you might disown somebody who happens to be non-vegan which are not because they aren't vegan, but due to other behavior. | ||
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| + | = Hostility = | ||
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| + | Disagreeing with and arguing about veganism is not personal hostility, but constant teasing, harassment, or inescapable argument at inappropriate times is. | ||
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| + | If you feel hostility from non-vegans, they may not even realize this is happening or that it is bothering you. Take some specific notes as examples, and then sit them down to talk about it and why it's not appropriate. | ||
| + | Even if they do not agree with veganism, it does not give them license to harass you over being vegan. | ||
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| + | That said, you should not expect complete silence from them on the matter: they may have concerns, particularly about nutrition, which you should discuss with them to put their minds at ease -- but they need to understand that it's only appropriate to have these discussions in the right time and place. Try to educate yourself on the topic, track your diet, and show them you know how to meet your nutritional needs. In the vast majority of cases, showing them you are safe and are eating a healthy diet will resolve any legitimate concerns they may have. | ||
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| + | If hostility continues after discussing it, it is not unreasonable to disassociate with the people who are causing you anxiety for their amusement. If you express this, be sure you make it clear that the problem is their harassment, and has nothing to do with their own choices. | ||
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| + | = Unsupportive = | ||
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| + | = Patronizing = | ||
Revision as of 03:23, 3 March 2018
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Please do not disown people, whether friends or family, for not being vegan. This is unlikely to encourage them to go vegan and reflects poorly on veganism.
However, there are reasons you might disown somebody who happens to be non-vegan which are not because they aren't vegan, but due to other behavior.
Hostility
Disagreeing with and arguing about veganism is not personal hostility, but constant teasing, harassment, or inescapable argument at inappropriate times is.
If you feel hostility from non-vegans, they may not even realize this is happening or that it is bothering you. Take some specific notes as examples, and then sit them down to talk about it and why it's not appropriate. Even if they do not agree with veganism, it does not give them license to harass you over being vegan.
That said, you should not expect complete silence from them on the matter: they may have concerns, particularly about nutrition, which you should discuss with them to put their minds at ease -- but they need to understand that it's only appropriate to have these discussions in the right time and place. Try to educate yourself on the topic, track your diet, and show them you know how to meet your nutritional needs. In the vast majority of cases, showing them you are safe and are eating a healthy diet will resolve any legitimate concerns they may have.
If hostility continues after discussing it, it is not unreasonable to disassociate with the people who are causing you anxiety for their amusement. If you express this, be sure you make it clear that the problem is their harassment, and has nothing to do with their own choices.
