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Would you date a transgender?

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Would you date a transgender?

Post by Cloppy » Tue Apr 11, 2017 5:51 pm

Personally, I wouldn't. I would prefer real girls or real guys, so for me it's no. I also never got along with them. So even if I would, I think it would have gone bad anyway.

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Post by brimstoneSalad » Wed Apr 12, 2017 12:09 am

Unless you're planning on procreating with the person, why would it matter as long as everything is physically attractive?

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Post by DarlBundren » Wed Apr 12, 2017 4:51 am

I don't know any transgender person and I have been straight all my life. It would be very unlikely, but I don't have anything against the idea.

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Post by Cloppy » Wed Apr 12, 2017 6:31 am

brimstoneSalad wrote:
Wed Apr 12, 2017 12:09 am
Unless you're planning on procreating with the person, why would it matter as long as everything is physically attractive?
Well, first yes I would like to have a child and if I didn't still I don't know. I would just feel weird about it and in general they have a different mentality that is not compatible with me at all so it's not only a physical problem.

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Post by brimstoneSalad » Wed Apr 12, 2017 12:49 pm

Cloppy wrote:
Wed Apr 12, 2017 6:31 am
I would just feel weird about it and in general they have a different mentality that is not compatible with me at all so it's not only a physical problem.
What do you mean by a different mentality? How so?

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Post by Cloppy » Wed Apr 12, 2017 10:32 pm

brimstoneSalad wrote:
Wed Apr 12, 2017 12:49 pm
Cloppy wrote:
Wed Apr 12, 2017 6:31 am
I would just feel weird about it and in general they have a different mentality that is not compatible with me at all so it's not only a physical problem.
What do you mean by a different mentality? How so?
Well, most are very sensetive to everything it's like I can't say anything to them without them getting triggered, start hating me or start trolling me. Last time I asked a question to one of them and they started hating me for no reason. Well, it's pretty much because I said I wasn't into transgender then they started sending me transgender porn, well, more like spamming it. So yeah my experience with them wasn't a good experience at all. I of course can't start a debate about anything with them without being seen as a very evil guy. I guess I'm just not compatible with them.

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Post by EquALLity » Wed Apr 12, 2017 11:42 pm

Cloppy wrote:
Wed Apr 12, 2017 10:32 pm
brimstoneSalad wrote:
Wed Apr 12, 2017 12:49 pm
Cloppy wrote:
Wed Apr 12, 2017 6:31 am
I would just feel weird about it and in general they have a different mentality that is not compatible with me at all so it's not only a physical problem.
What do you mean by a different mentality? How so?
Well, most are very sensetive to everything it's like I can't say anything to them without them getting triggered, start hating me or start trolling me. Last time I asked a question to one of them and they started hating me for no reason. Well, it's pretty much because I said I wasn't into transgender then they started sending me transgender porn, well, more like spamming it. So yeah my experience with them wasn't a good experience at all. I of course can't start a debate about anything with them without being seen as a very evil guy. I guess I'm just not compatible with them.
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Honestly, I probably wouldn't want to date someone who is trans, because many transpeople don't completely look like one gender. If I can clearly tell that someone was born another gender but doesn't dress and act that way, it doesn't really attract me. But that's not transpeoples' fault, and if I said that and it offended a transperson, then I wouldn't really be surprised or say they are easily offended. I mean, I would probably be offended by that if I was transgender, but that's just how my attraction works.

It's like people not being attracted to other races because they were born around predominantly one race. They're not necessarily racist, but wouldn't you understand if someone was offended by that?
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Post by Jebus » Thu Apr 13, 2017 12:08 am

I would be worried to date one even if I found him/her physically attractive. I don't know any transgenders personally but I have a hard time thinking that they would be much fun being around. My guess is that they are gender fixated and/or victims of a gender fixated society. Many of them, I guess, are also attention seeking.
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Post by NonZeroSum » Thu Apr 13, 2017 2:47 am

Jebus wrote:
Thu Apr 13, 2017 12:08 am
I would be worried to date one even if I found him/her physically attractive. I don't know any transgenders personally but I have a hard time thinking that they would be much fun being around. My guess is that they are gender fixated and/or victims of a gender fixated society. Many of them, I guess, are also attention seeking.
That's an understandable concern, but it's comparable to the notion that vegans are 'food fixated' and attention seeking, a vocal minority are. I'm straight and dated someone who was female who dressed kind of punk and practically for the jobs they did, and if you really pressed conversationally finding out about them they would weave a story about some of the stoic adventures they set out to do for their own enjoyment were probably linked to wanting to be one of the guys early on. I digged the soft features under rugged exterior and had similar interests, that's all there was too it. They never demanded anyone use 'they' pronouns or treated them more like a guy, they just clicked with people that accepted them for them.
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Tue Apr 11, 2017 5:51 pm
Personally, I wouldn't. I would prefer real girls or real guys, so for me it's no. I also never got along with them. So even if I would, I think it would have gone bad anyway.
I understand there's some animosity between bisexuals and pansexuals for the latter running away with a term that was focused on attraction - sexuality - and making it about gender identity, which is fair. I'd just echo what equALLity said that you can't make a blanket statement about all black people, its fine to think of your sexuality as really digging these 2 binary essences and their corroborating boy parts and girl parts, but don't make it about something bad they've done that put you off them forever, unless it is a legitimate traumatizing experience, like I don't say its impossible that one cis-guy could ever do it for me, it just doesn't seem on the cards based on past attractions.

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Post by Jebus » Thu Apr 13, 2017 3:11 am

NonZeroSum wrote:
Thu Apr 13, 2017 2:47 am
It's comparable to the notion that vegans are 'food fixated' and attention seeking, a vocal minority are.
I don't get the vegan "food fixated" part at all. Why would a vegan be "food fixated" and why would anyone consider a vegan food fixated? My personal experience has been the opposite, i.e. non-vegans don't think I love food as much as they do.

The attention seeking part is more understandable as vegans often see veganism as a dominant part of their identity. However, the consequences of an attention seeking vegan is usually positive. I'm not sure the same can be said for an attention seeking transgender person.
NonZeroSum wrote:
Thu Apr 13, 2017 2:47 am
I'd just echo what equALLity said that you can't make a blanket statement about all black people
I don't think that's a good analogy. Being black, provided that education is controlled for, predicts very little about one's behavior, whereas one can make some predictions of how a transgender will act.

The idea that your gender should have anything to do with how long you grow your hair, what clothes or make-up you wear, or whether or not you wear a tie is ridiculous and I suspect this is something that will go away in the future. Hence I think transgenders are closed-minded in the sense that they feel a need to look like their current society expects their gender identity to look.
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